FEAR-False Experience Appearing Real.
This is a definition that circulates in therapy circles, teaching us that most of our fears never become real.
Last week, we spoke about how being scared makes us feel alive. But those are scary movies.
Often, we fear simple or not so simple challenges in life.
Last month, my hairdresser told me about this wellness retreat she is going to. She felt it might be a good reset after my mom died.
I hummed and hawed. I'm too busy. I'm too (fill in the blank). Lots of excuses, but I realized I was a little afraid. The travel, entering room after room, not knowing anyone. So many questions-so much fear.
I decided to jump into this. Forcing myself into a situation that would be uncomfortable. Making all the decisions, eating by myself, going to a concert alone.
So I went into this intending to breathe, smile at others, and make one decision at a time. Every fear would be a step in the right direction-something to be faced and overcome.
And like most of my fears, there really was nothing to be feared.
The participants were so kind. I met some great people. I realized many people came by themselves, including my hairdresser. I learned some amazing stuff from brilliant doctors, movers, and those selling their products.
I moved, I laughed, I cried.
When you are facing a fear, I hope you give yourself some love and kindness and know you too can tackle whatever fear is staring you in the face.
